Listening for LOVE

How often do you confess your love to the one's that really make a difference.

Personally I find it very weird to go upto my dad or mum and say "I Love U."

Probably the only person I can say "I love you" without any reason or event and not feel funny about it is Ankita.

I was chatting with a childhood friend a couple of days and in the midst of a very serious conversation he told me that if someone doesnt say 'those three words' doesnt mean that they dont love u. He told me that if a close friend isnt talking to me doesnt mean that she doesnt love me anymore. They just convey their TLC through their actions. We kind of landed up arguing on this as I just didnt get the point.

I played this whole conversation over in my head yesterday and I realised how true this whole thing was and how most of us shy away from conveying our feelings through words and expect the other person to understand and interpret every action of yours.

There are moments when we really need to convey our feelings and need to tell the other person how much we love them, but there is this whole fear about expressing the love we feel.

We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say and the only one thing we should say is the one thing we dont say. According to me this is one of the most vital reasons why relationships fall apart.

People who were very important and meant the world to you at some point, no longer know what you upto just because you had lost the opportunity to hold it all together just by saying what you feel for them and what they meant to you.

But since the feeling is so strong and real, and the need to say it so high, we are driven to use other words and the meaning is never communicated the way we intend it to be conveyed.

The other person is left feelings unwanted and unloved.

Therefore we need to listen for love in the words that people are saying to us.

We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we are alot more loved than we realise :)

cHange

Its my boss's last day tomorrow!!
For alot of people I know this may sound like good news cz they cant even stand the sight of their boss.

On the other hand it was a different ball game altogether in my office.

From the 1st day itself when I walked in for my interview shes been my guiding force, no matter what rapport I share with my Colleagues, she was one of the few reasons why I loved my jOb and looked forward to every single day at work.

I dont know how much of this she knew, but I am sure she knew that I was in aWe of her since the very beginning.

We didn't share alot of words, but it was just her presence that made work so much fun.

She followed the open door policy (literally). We could walk into her cabin as and when we wished if we wanted something or if we are just having a bad day.

We were told about her plans of moving on last Thursday and we were more than taken aback by the news as for a couple of us she was someone we looked up to and got inspiration from.

The whole thought of "omg what are we gonna do without her" was running on our minds through the day. We felt like a headless chicken running in a market full of people.

When she spoke to us about this we just couldn't hold back our tears :P

Its funny how we form a bond with people in no time and the way we react when the person is no more going to play the same pivotal part in your life.

This also made me realise how I much detest change (initially). I would kill for things to remain the same. But unfortunately as they say change is the only constant thing in our life.

I don't how much my perspective towards the job and the people at my work place is going to change, but I know one thing for sure Iam Going to Miss my Boss sorely.

Saying good bye is one the toughest things...

For me, Seventeen wouldn't be Seventeen without you!!!

I hope the break helps you sort it all out and you come back stronger.

All the best!

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I have been wanting to blog about alot of things since a couple of weeks,

Have so much to talk about, whether its the guy at the gym or the graduation ceremony tomorrow and how everyone around me is running helter skleter just to make sure I look perfect or in general things happening on a day to day basis.

Life's been so different and amazingly awesome, want to write it all down.

But guess I am temporarily suffering from Writers Block, every time I sit down to type a post I never manage to put all my thoughts down in words.

I hope this phase passes soon as I really miss blogging.

Someone please advise me a remedy for this :)

Art Of Living

Last week was quite something I must say!

Office had organised an Art Of Living course for all, so day started at 8 in the morning, the session went on till 11.30 and then we used to rush to office. The funniest part last week was to see almost everyone in their tracks running around in office and this my Friends is a once in a lifetime opportunity to see people who otherwise would be in their Gucci and Prada :)

Apart from all of this, we learnt quite a bit in all the sessions, was a rejuvenating experience.

Out of all the things we spoke about in the last 5 days the one thing that struck me the most was the Cycle Theory. No no it ain't no rocket science, but happens in all our lives.

Every relationship in our live goes through a cycle. There are times when we talk to a friend 3 times a day and then there is a phase where you hardly talk for a Minute everyday, down to One Call in a week. This goes on for a while till you hardly talk, and know about the nitty gritties of each others life through Social Networking sites.
What sets good relations apart is the ability to keep the Ego aside and call the other person, even if it means calling after a year.

When the Teacher was talking to us about it, it made alot of sense to me. I personally think its just that one call that can make things better, but sometimes that one call makes you think so much. There have been times when my Best Friend and I haven't spoken nor mailed each other for a couple of months at a stretch, but at the end, all it needs is just one call to make it better.

Trust me just listening to the other persons voice can make things better.

So go on make a Random Call today,
Without getting 'If's and But's' in the way.

After Effects

Its been a while since I posted something on the blog!
In the last post I spoke about how I wanted to stand up for myself and speak up when needed, not let it build up inside me.
It did work quite a bit, it did make a difference, sorted a couple of things which were bothering me and taking a toll!! The after effects of the same have been bad (not for me.)
Sometimes people just force you to be wicked, they create an urge within you to erupt and speak up which can be lethal for them!
I am glad that I finally stood up, all thanks to all the pestering from G.
Another reason why I haven't blogged since a long time now is cause I have been trying to figure out life and see where I belong.
Life just amuses me to no extent (as always)!!
A couple of incidents in the past week and a half have me realise how our live's are interconnected.
How someone influences some decision of our life, how that whole thing changes our perspective and how that in turn affects everyone around me.
Its a continuous cycle which is quite freaky as we don't know how far is our attitude going to affect and who who is going to be on the receiving end of the same.
R and me did something quite random last week, was crazy!
And another incident made me realise that
I SUCK AT KEEPING SECRETS (the ones that I have building up on.)